I feel compelled to write this post today after an experience that I just had on the bus. In fact no, not just from my experience today but the past few times I have traveled on the bus with my baby son Joseph. I feel like I need to say something on behalf of myself and other parents who may have had similar experiences.
So, Joseph is my third child! I have an 18 year old daughter ( yes I was a young mother, but a very good one – thank you very much!), a four year old son and Joseph who is 18 months old. Joseph and I travel on the bus quite regularly and I am pretty annoyed and fed up by some of the comments I have heard over the past few weeks!
- “He’s a handful”
- “He looks like hard work”
- “Oooohh he has a temper on him.”
- “It’s terrible seeing children staring at a phone while their mother ignores them.”
- “I hate seeing these kids staring at screens all day long.”
- “I remember when a rattle used to be enough.”
So to every Tom, Dick or Mary that feels the need to comment on other people’s parenting skills, maybe you should think twice in future. There’s no denying that Joseph is hard work, he hates sitting in his buggy on the bus and he gets very distressed about it. It’s also hard, as a parent when you know that everyone on that bus is staring at you and judging you. As I mentioned earlier, Jospeh is my third child and neither of my other two would have uttered a sound on a bus journey and they didn’t even need a rattle to keep them quiet, they just sat!
Jospeh is different and yes sometimes when he is getting very distressed I let him watch nursery rhymes on my phone. This is not because I can’t be bothered talk with him? Like one pleasant old lady told me, neither is it for my own benefit! At home he has distractions, his toys, books and a room and garden that he loves to explore and have his own freedom. He never watches my phone at home as it is simply not needed.
Most days when you see me on the bus I will be traveling home from a museum, play group, park or library where I have spent time talking to Joseph, teaching him words, showing him animals and being the best parent I can be.
I also feel that technology and watching educational programmes can be an integral part of the learning process for children these days. My eldest son has gained so much knowledge about Dinosaurs and Science from watching educational cartoons and I wouldn’t change that for the world.
So, for any other parents out there, please just do what you think is right! Most parents are just trying to do their best and making these unhelpful remarks does no good to anyone. I am learning as I grow older that you can never please everyone. They complain when he cries and they complain when I do all I can to keep him entertained. Just keep doing what you think is right!
Sorry for the rant and the fact that this is far different from any of my other posts but I just really did feel so strongly about this. I also know that some people may disagree with this and that is fine.